Hi Anita

That is a good point. I believe that my anger, often shows up as anxiety, when I was younger it would show up as sadness.

Focusing on empathy first whenever anger or anxiety arises sounds like a great idea. Thank you for sharing it. I’m sure it will be very helpful.

You have a really good level of self awareness of what works and doesn’t work for you.

I can cope with people expressing anger in a healthy way, for about 30 minutes. It does make me feel very vulnerable though. I agree it is easier to communicate when people don’t express anger as anger and instead communicate as you say with empathy. This is a relatively new thing that I learned to do this year. It I also makes me feel vulnerable but in a different way. I think there is more trust whereas I tend to be distrusting of anger because of my experiences.

I appreciate your thoughtful and kind thoughts as always!

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏