Hi t

I’m sorry to hear that dating is triggering some trauma for you. Therapy doesn’t necessarily teach emotional regulation, it can give you some tools which you would have to make an effort to practice yourself. But therapy could be helpful for unpicking the memories of trauma from your experience with your boyfriend by processing the original trauma. Another thing they can help with is teaching you how to change negative beliefs which can be limiting.

I’m sorry that you had a bad experience with a therapist. I can understand the reluctance to try again. I think this is why unconditional positive regard is a really important facet of therapy. People often don’t get treat with love when they grow up. A good therapist lets you have that experience of being treat with love and respect for often the first time in someone’s life.

Getting enough sleep, resting, having fun, eating regularly, meditation, exercise. You know, self care is really important for emotional regulation. Breathing exercises, yoga, music. Taking extra special care of yourself while you are feeling delicate is important. You see now why a therapist cannot help you with those things? Do you feel like you have difficulties with self-care? What do you think are your roadblocks for that?

Love and wishes! ❤️🙏