Dear Helcat:

“To feel close to you, I need to know: You value me and our relationship, You’ll respond to me in moments where I reach out to you… You hold me in high esteem, You are willing to see and understand me, My feelings are valid to you, You respect me.. I can trust your love and loyalty, You can trust my love and loyalty“- very well articulated: this is true to me too.

“Growing up, I didn’t have those things. I realised that I literally never had a single person care for my emotional needs as a child“- I could have written this.

“97% of the time our relationship is good“- congratulations for 97%!

“Since having a baby some of the things that have been said during arguments have hurt. Only 3 times. But the pain lingers in that part of me.“- my little prayer: may we forgive ourselves and others whenever possible, wherever  appropriate. In this messy, chaotic world, may we focus on the positive and the orderly (the sane), and may we help each other be better and better people.

anita