Dear Adrianne:

“One time she told me it bothers her that we talk a lot, meaning she feels like she texts me too much and that she would prefer to spend this time with a boyfriend“- she said this before she got into a relationship. Seems like she wanted to distance herself from you while she was single. Almost as if she was angry at you and tried to hurt your feelings, as in saying (paraphrased): I prefer to spend my time with someone else (a boyfriend) than with you!

And once in a relationship, “she started texting me her photos with him like everyday, those photos were almost identical: them at the restaurant, them at the mountains…“- seems like she was trying to make a point to you: I HAVE A BOYFRIEND! Here he is! Here’s another photo! He is wit me, not you! (…?)

“I got a surprise package and. it turned out it was a gift from her on my birthday… I texted her to thank her etc. and I also said ‘I was very surprised that you sent me gifts considering we barely talk’ and she said ‘yeah, it somehow turned out that way‘”- seems/ feels like her trying, again, to hurt your feelings, to toy with your feelings..?

“I don’t even know if she is that busy working or just doesn’t want to talk to us. But it seems like she just doesn’t want to and doesn’t even need to say hello anymore.“- I think that her behavior is not a result of her having a boyfriend and therefore, having less time for you, but a result of some anger she built up before her relationship..?

anita