Dear Prudence:

You are welcome!

“I’d be lying if I said I don’t try to avoid seeking the attention of potential suitors when going out“- so, you do try to avoid seeking the attention of potential suitors when going out.. and you are successful at it.

“I don’t see other girls flirting as often“- so, other girls do flirt.

“my invisibility to men makes me feel inferior to other women“- I know the feeling and I hope that you will not be feeling this way for long.

“I can’t deny that I’m a shy and closed-off person“- you may find it interesting to read an article by Manhattan cbt. com/ shy-dating(part quote): “if you’re shy and trying to date, it can feel impossible!… It’s particularly helpful to keep an eye on the harmful aspects of shyness that can make dating extra tough, such as avoiding meeting people and avoiding people who might be interested in you… General Dating Tips for Shy People..”

“I see other shy and introverted people being successful sometimes“- there are almost cases that are exceptions to the rule, always people who succeed in areas you don’t, and people who fail in areas you succeed.

anita