Hi Laura,

Thanks for having the courage to be so candid! Matt gave you such wonderful and loving feedback, it may be all you require, though if I may, I’d like to humbly submit this added thought: This experience triggered your “shadow” which is the unresolved or unprocessed pain which we all have stored in the unconscious part of ourselves, as brilliantly defined by Carl Jung.

If you’re human you have a shadow. In fact, no one gets through life without one. It’s the great unifier and nothing to be ashamed. When the shadow shows up (usually at what feels like the worst moments), it meant to challenge us by showing us the “unpretty” sides of ourselves, which ultimately are crying out to be healed.

So, as I see it, the good news is that this experience occurred in order for you to heal something within yourself. You may want to start by asking, “What pain or fear made me look at his phone?” just to get the ball rolling.

By getting to the root of our shadows, we are solving the great mysteries of our lives. If we can better understand this unconscious part of ourselves, then these kinds of situations will have served their purposes, so we can heal, and in turn, forgive.

I hope this is helpful!

To learn more about the shadow, the work of the late great Debbie Ford is wonderful. Her book, The Shadow Effect, is life changing. She made a movie about it as well. Both are terrific! 🙂

Love,
Alix