Please don’t anybody think about time spent in a relationship as “wasted”. It was a lesson in what you desire in a relationship and what you can or can’t tolerate. You’ve experienced love, struggle and loss. All these things stay with you as you continue on in life. I sometimes catch myself falling into the trap of “if only”, but I have to believe that every person comes into my life for a reason. It’s not a race. Everything happens in its own time.