Hi Zita
So sorry I was off your topic when asking Al other questions. I’m not as experienced as Jasmine and Al here so I can’t really advise you anything. How I forgave my ex who hurt me is to step into his shoes. I tried to see things from his prospective and came to realise that he was suffering just like me. Meditation helps heaps for me. I remember after he broke up with me, I couldn’t function at all so I went to a meditation group. That was my first ever proper meditation. As I was meditating, I was shocked by the hatred that was trying to raise inside me. I was in a bit of panic during the meditation and trying to supress the feeling coz I didn’t wanna hate him at all. I think the instructor recognised it coz after the meditation, he told us when we experience any negative feelings during meditation, it is prefectly normal and instead of trying to supress them, we should acknowledge them and let them pass. I started meditating daily from then on. Also, I try to practise compassion towards him. The more compassion I have towards him, the more I understand why he made his decision. It’s still hard for me to fully accept his decision but I respect it. He indeed hurt me more than anyone else but the breakup also acts as a catalyst pushing me to find and love myself.
Honestly, hating him doesn’t do me any good. It would only drag me down and make me angry. Altho it’s not easy, only by practising compassion towards him really gets me out of the misery. I dunno if I’m making any sense to you here but I wish you happy.
With love.
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