Hi Jessa,

I’m a lot like you in that I crave really close, lasting friendships and I don’t just befriend anyone. This sort of approach has positives and negatives – one of the negatives being that it’s HARD to find those kind of friendships. The good thing is that when you do, it’s well worth it.

I’d say that if you’re giving and giving to these people and not receiving anything in return, look elsewhere. Relationships are give and take and you deserve the kind of energy you’re giving them in return.

As for feeling paranoid, well…I’ve been there too. It has to do with self-esteem and knowing your worth. Ask yourself, “Do I form relationships with people because I’m being polite?” Chances are you’re not. People become friends because they like each other! Trust yourself and your friendships.