Joe, I can’t think of a gentle way to say this…you blew it dude. Please let this poor girl move on and leave her in peace. You are getting a little taste of how devastating and difficult and awful it can be to try and move on. She got through it and has told you no, bless her heart, because I’m sure part of her was tempted. Please leave her alone. Study and internalize the lessons you have learned and never let it happen again. And for God’s sake, please be fair & honest with the one you are seeing now, she’d be pretty upset to know she was playing second fiddle. PS Soul mates aren’t born, they are made in the fires of unconditional love. Good luck.