Hi Jobebee,

With your boyfriend, tbh, you might not be in the mood even if the abuse never happened! We women are a creature of moods, hormones, flow. This is why you love the Water Element so much. It’s who we are. It’s Us.

Anything that happened when we were children is never, ever, never our fault. But I hate the word “victim” only because of all the connotations associated with it. Children are divine expressions of Nature Herself. Things happen to us. We are placed in certain environments. We are pre-verbal. Any other small child would have experienced the same things growing up.

And, you are a survivor! My God, believe it! You are still here, aren’t you? Even to talk about it, write about it?

You are also not alone. Not by a long shot. The statistics on assaults and abuse of girls and women are shocking. Even here in developed countries. Even especially here in the US. When people hear or read your story, a third to a half is thinking, “Me too.”

A self or street defense class might be of interest to you. Now that you are an adult, this will help bring some of that confidence back.

All the blessings and love in the world,

Inky