You sound like me, expect I’m married to the guy. For a long time I did everything around the house and took care of my daughter, was working full time, bringing in equal amount of money to the house. Yet I had to do all the work!

I don’t enjoy sex with him, never did. I don’t think I love him either (I don’t know!!!) and frankly I prefer him to be away rather than be home with him…not surprising, he had an affair with his colleague for about 3 years. I found out, he apologized and after a whole year of going back and forth with her and me, he’s finally left her…and convinced (forced) me to stay with him.
He is changing, helping more in the house and with our daughter, but I’ve lost all respect and what little love I had for him. I can’t bring myself to enjoy sex with him, and while he used to get mad about it, he doesn’t any more, at least he doesn’t show it.
We still have lots of arguments, and It’s always my fault and I am the one who ends up apologizing (whether it was my fault or not). He is controlling and manipulative.

What you feel for your boyfriend is not love, just a comfort zone, being with him is familiar. He doesn’t love you nor respect you. Try to talk to him, if he doesn’t change, move out…Yes, easier said than done! I’m struggling with the same thing. Every time I make plans, decisions about moving out, then he starts flipping out, he would threaten to kill himself, stop eating, cry and make me feel so guilty, that I would give in and drop my plans.

I feel your pain, be strong and write down what are the things you like about him, what you don’t. Talk to him, that’s the only way. Ultimately, you have a choice.