I would like to sincerely thank those of you who took the time to read my post. All your comments made me think a lot as usual.

@ Matt: dear Matt you followed my posts since I discovered the TB community. I do not know you but I am always amazed how you are able to read me like an open book. Your comments are always dead on. My healing process is rather slow and still feel extremely fragile.Few months ago I was on my knees now I am standing straight but I am still not moving forward. Having these kind of encounters somehow showed me how insecure I feel, how the pain inflicted by my previous relationship is vivid.
Basically I am still dwelling on the past even if for an intellectual standpoint I know it does make any sense.
Meeting people who look so confident from the outside giving you lesson about how your life is not heading toward the right direction is not easy to deal with.
I promise you that I will look into the Metta Meditation.

@Lada: I am very touched by your comment. It was genuine, open and very sensitive. I am glad to read that you were able to get over your painful experience and eventually find yourself. The physical part of a relationship is crucial but not every male are just aiming only for this.Mental connection/interaction is at least as important as the former.After what happened to me I could not consider an other way than taking things slow but it seems that it is too old fashioned… go figure.

@Mayra Luna: Thank you very much for your support. I am not sure that I deserve all these nice comments. I try to be true and respectful (sometimes a little naive) when I interact with human beings.It is not about the person but more about what she said.Listening to her I am not reflecting anything positive, I could not be happy with my type of personality, I was not flaky enough to truly appreciate what life could bring me etc etc I have to admit that sometimes I should loosen up a little but I lost myself a year ago and those comments cracked my cuirass open not easy to build some confidence back up.