Sassy,

A little nagging itch, eh? Sounds like addiction to me, and not healthy. Consider he turned your body on something fierce, and the wounds are still pretty fresh… so getting urges is normal, usual. How many junkies get that itch and say “oh, just one more hit, just one more will be fine.”

Attend something else, dear sister… your breath, a hobby, your boyfriend. Wounds don’t heal if you keep picking at them. Exs don’t lose their control of us if we don’t take their pictures down off the walls of our home.

Still having some bedroom disappointment with the BF? This “feeling” of wanting to be with the ex may be filial lust, wanting some satisfaction from an inappropriate partner. Turn away, sis! Red flags are waving!

With warmth,
Matt