Dear Jessie,
I can tell by your message that you feel extreme remorse about your sticky situation (no pun intended). Personally, I don’t feel it’s right when someone cheats on another person. Cheating goes against my personal morals on how a person should be treated. Clearly, you wouldn’t like it if your husband cheated on you. Even if he did that to get even with you, neither of you would be happy in the marriage. I’m NOT saying you have to tell him you cheated on him with another man, but if you ever decide to, and your conscience gets the best of you, say this: “I don’t want this marriage to tear us apart, but I have to come clean about my past actions. I cheated on you with another man and I want to see how we can work this out.” If that doesn’t work, you could try seeing a counselor, and NO, THAT DOES NOT MAKE YOU CRAZY. A counselor can help you with underlying issues on how you can rescue your relationship. Take care. Live, laugh, love.