Hi Neko

Thanks for your post.

Being a workaholic is not a disease or something to be ashamed of. However, if work starts to create an imbalance in other parts of the life, it can create a havoc.

You did what you did. Your needs for a loving partner were not being fulfilled by this guy you were dating regardless of his needs or work commitments. So there is nothing wrong with the decision that you made at the time. But now you have started to develop self-pity and some sympathy for the other guy after hearing another side of the story from his sister.

Often, we make decisions, which we have to regret later as when we make decisions, we do not take whole picture into account. We make emotional decisions as we are filled with anger, hurt, fear etc. We want instant relief from our sufferings and forget about the future consequences of our present actions.

An email is not a proper way of breaking up or sending an ultimatum. If you have issues creep in a relationship, have the decency to talk to the person. Keep an open mind.

The situation is not beyond repair in your case. Ring him and ask him what his issues are and what is preventing you guys from having a good relationship. And if after that, you realise that he is not the right man for you, have the guts to tell him that and end the chapter there. Do not keep going back to the past, yeah !!! When you finish with an issue, put a FULL STOP and move forward with your head held high up 🙂

And one more thing: You are NOT responsible for other people’s happiness or lessons in this world or life. You can provide your perspective to him but you cant expect him to change or pay attention to it. That’s where your responsibility ends. At the end of everything, an individual has to make own choices as to what their needs in life are. We can put the food in front of a person but to chew it and take it to down to the stomach is their own choice, yeah ?

Let the guilt go and embrace some lessons from this experience for the future.

Loads of positive energy coming your way.

Jasmine