Jon,
Thanks for your insight and I agree with many of the points you made. I must say we tried several therapy session years ago, which he was quite defensive and angry about and refused to ever to that again. Although relationships should not be about money, money is a vehicle to having “power” in a relationship and exerting control.
I have been unhappy for a very long time and the fact of the matter is because I am not physical 100%, I cannot work enough to support myself….having to settle and live with someone who has not honored my contribution to creating a beautiful family – seems hopeless and unsatisfying.
PS – I have never misused family funds, or went shopping on his dime or any other spending frenzy – I gave him no cause to exclude me in the financial process. I am very hurt that he cannot see that I contributed just as much with supporting my family in other ways. We all know that monthly expenses are only half of the costs of living a family life.
Thanks you again for your input…….