Hello Lee. Thirteen years ago (aged 30) I faced the same dilemma with my partner of 11 years (at the time). He had other priorities (money, his car, his career, holidays) and I had convinced myself that I didn’t want kids, having suggested it to him 5 years earlier & him accusing me of not wanting to work (he got quite angry). Five years on & I started having dreams about having a baby & waking up in tears because it wasn’t true. I became increasingly restless and ended up leaving him & found a man who did want children & now we have 3 boys. It was incredibly difficult to leave my ex & I felt a lot of guilt over it but we all have to follow our own hearts or end up resentful & miserable. For me – I didn’t know what life was for until I had children. It might not be so important to your life but perhaps your husband thinks that the ‘freedom’ he has is too valuable to sacrifice. Perhaps for the sake of your marriage you could ask him to do some thinking to find out why he’s against it. Maybe his upbringing puts him off – maybe he thinks he will be a bad father. Having kids is scary – perhaps he could talk to someone?

I hope you work things out with your husband but if you really want kids I would not recommend ignoring your feelings.

Lucy