Hey Blaice. I understand your feelings. It may seem as if this day and age requires people to just be in a relationship right away. But that’s not true. You don’t always have to be in a relationship with someone. The fairy tales and all of those Disney movies we watched growing up may have given us hope, but in the end, you won’t always get a happily ever after. There are main reasons why people want a relationship and sex right away: insecurity, low self-esteem, and that reinforced idea in our world that you have to be someone with someone to be happy.

From what I can hear, my intuition is telling me that you’re hanging out with the wrong people. You should be with a female that saves sex for marriage, given the fact that you come from a religious background. I came from a religious background myself. I am actually relieved that you’re one of those few guys who would want to be waiting for sex rather in rush into it. Rushing into sex just leads to teen pregnancy, or having a baby at a young age, STDs, and the condom can slip off or break. I’m not saying you should FEAR sex, but it can be amazing. That’s why it’s better to wait. Another factor could be that the women who need love and sex right now probably didn’t have a father figure in their lives.

This isn’t your fault. If you stay optimistic, avoid negative people, and find your true love (cliche I know!), then everything will work out for you. Live, laugh, love.

-Aiyana