Big Blue,

Your format is a challenge!

1) The sperm always chases the egg, its by design. Consider instead not releasing the sperm until you’re in the bedroom. Not getting so ensnared by her charms that it produces agitation, chasing, yearning, wishing. Save the investment, in that way, until you’re both ready, open. Then its “what do we wish to grow?”

2) Connecting with her heart is more about listening than chasing. When we listen, aiming is easy, doesn’t feel like a chase. More like following heartfelt inspiration, with the hope, but not expectation, of it being received well, as intended, with that smile as a reward.

3) Consider a tit for tat strategy. If you communicate, and she doesn’t, wait. Let it be an exchange, don’t press. If her heart is in tune with yours, she’ll want to respond, offer her side back. Maybe a couple attempts initially, so you can be confident you’ve tried your best to share your desire to know her better, share a dance… but not habitually. If she doesn’t respond or plays hard to get? Move on, who needs games? Intimacy is tricky enough.

With warmth,
Matt