@talkingwithtinybuddah / Big Blue

Taking your time is never a bad thing!!! We’ve got all the time in the world. I feel it’s better to take a walk in the park than run past everything only to find out you’ve missed a lot.

Honestly, you shouldn’t be afraid to be yourself. Don’t ever lose yourself in any relationship. I feel that’s what happened to us. He was so busy trying to prove himself to me, he actually forgot who was now. It’s better to be honest in the long run. Not being you will only hurt you both. You’ll feel lost and she’ll feel like the entire thing was a lie. I honestly wished we could have done that with each other. Like communicate better, allow ourselves to tell each other if we feel lost or caged. But its done. You still have a chance to make it work so go for it. 🙂

Also, dont be afraid of not being at your best. I think growing together and seeing how one becomes better is a true bonding experience. its what we should aim for in any relationship 😀

Hope I made sense and that I got it right.

These articles help:
http://www.tressugar.com/Can-You-Find-Yourself-Committed-Relationship-3482704
http://umiji.org/more-of-umis-words/544-relationship-while-finding-yourself
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201204/are-you-more-likely-lose-yourself-or-find-yourself-in-relationship

As for the question, I think it’d help me feel less sad. As much as possible, I want to keep him in my life (whatever he wants to be) but I find myself feeling bad afterwards cause I still miss “being with him” and it reminds me of how we’ve fallen apart, how I used to know everything and now I don’t have a clue. Personally feel I should just take the time off first and maybe when I’m emotionally ready I could be friends with him.

My plan of action is to be friendly but a little distant til I’ve moved on completely.

Also! Thank you for the kind words!