I’m going to summarize what you’ve just outlined in your post. You say your boyfriend:
– Is unwilling to be an equal partner in the upkeep of the home
– Criticizes your body, especially when you’re at your most vulnerable/exposed
– Pressures you for sex despite the fact that you’ve been exposed to sexual abuse
– Uses money/finances as a way to demonstrate his superiority over you

I want you to know that when he says you bring nothing to the relationship, he is lying. You do, you have given him your time and energy and commitment; the fact that he does not recognize your contributions to the relationship or respect your needs. You deserve better!