Tracey,

I came on the site today as I am experiencing something akin to your situation. I’ve been with my man for 11 years though. And the friends I’ve reached out to are the same ones I’ve spent months supporting through various issues while coping with my own issues. I don’t feel they owe me anything, I gave it freely. But still, I was so hurt to find that lack of support.

Matt, the response you gave was so insightful! It’s a lesson I’m learning and struggling with a great deal. I’ve noticed even when I do find support I don’t feel any better and I’ve been suspecting it’s because the person I need support from is me. A friend that is very supportive, but also very busy, told me “It’s time to pull up your big girl pants and learn to walk alone.” Lol! It may sound blunt, but he said it with love and it really stuck with me.

Tracey I pray we can both utilize the wise advice Matt has given, and learn to be our own support system.