Trevor

Reading the last paragraph of your initial post reads as though your mother may have (MAY HAVE – NOT DEFINITELY) (MALIGNANT) NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.

There are plenty of websites that will help you define this for yourself. You know your mother better than the participates on your post so you will know if she is borderline or full blown. I’m just trying to help you but apologise if I have spoken out of turn. No offence meant to you &c..

Cee Jay