Trevor,

It seems like you’re stuck making all this discomfort about them. If only they… if only she… sarcastic responding to posts, etc. etc… but refusing to accept that you’re being pissy that your mom is acting like a mom. Its like getting worked up that a car isn’t a plane, a bird isn’t a lion. I agree with Louise, oddly enough,you seem to be acting spoiled and unappreciative… which is normal, usual, and part of growing up. Not meaning to judge, but look around you, goof ball, free shelter, free food, and yet your head gets stuck because mom wants you to be this or that? Unsticking your head is about resting in the bigger picture. Giving up whining about all she does that afflicts you, and instead accepting the yin and yang, the light and shadow, the tasty free food along with the preaching she does. Or, move out.

This whole “hey, wise beings, what’s a polite way to tell my parents to fuck off” doesn’t lead you to freedom, only to further agitation. As soon as mom is out, there will be a boss, doing the same stuff. Quit that job, low and behold, the next boss, same stuff. Get married? Oh no, there it is again! Nip it early, find forgiveness and respect for the good she brings, and be free here and now… before it turns into a lifetime project. Or, expend your precious energy trying to prove you’re a man, while overlooking the kind of man you’re actually being.

With warmth,
Matt