@andyyy45

Hi Andy

Welcome to TB.

I am sorry that you find yourself in this state. Hey, we cant take ownership for someone else’s life or their decisions or their miseries. Our life is ours to live and others is for them to live.

You can be there as a friend and provide moral support as and when required without any expectations.

The reason you are feeling this way is probably because you are emotionally invested with this person. If something similar was happening to a stranger, would you have cared ? I suspect your answer will be a NO. Try and detach yourself from the emotions and be there unconditionally for a friend. Unconditionally means without conditions. You are accepting the other person for who they are with their flaws and strengths. And the only way we can do this is when we are able to accept ourselves the way we are 🙂 everyone is awesome as they are and everyone has their own lessons to learn. You cant hurry someone through life’s school lol.

Stop stressing and go and enjoy your life. You have no control over anything in this world (as yet, anyways) except for your reactions, emotions, feelings and actions. Rest is out of bounds luckily 🙂 for everyone’s well-being.

Loads of positive energy coming your way,

Jasmine