Hi all, sorry for the slow reply. I had a couple of better days at work in my day job.

Yes I hear you The Ruminant. I am trying…it’s an old habit now although I know it definitely does help to try to see things separately. And it is my fears about losing things/people I love and falling further into a bad situation that are upsetting me, and that haven’t happened yet. It’s hard to see myself as the boss of my own life because then I only have myself to blame, and being strong all the time is difficult. I really am trying in different ways to advance my career all the time, but it still isn’t enough.

Anyone – thanks so much, your simple words “nobody has a right to hurt you” have stayed in my mind, I hadn’t thought in such clear terms before about the previous relationship.

I like this idea Inky, and thanks for the positivity of your post. I am actually working on a project to get my name out in my spare time although it’s slow progress. I also did look outside the industry into charity, local government and the civil service where my skills might still be worth something, but they are competitive industries too. But I should keep on with that. It’s a case of keeping myself together to do it.

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