Hi Annie,

I agree with Abraham that you need to look deep inside and listen to the voice of your intuition (the quiet calm voice that just knows what you really want to do – not the load chatter of your fear).

I would perhaps go one step further though once you are clear on what your inner voice wants you to know, and ask yourself would you rather continue to speculate or would you rather know? I’m with Abraham on you needing to be honest – and that comes with vulnerability and acting from a place of the most genuine of intentions. There is no guarantee here that he will be willing to open up in return to you, or where this could go, that’s not something that’s within your control. We cannot predict how other people will feel or behave, all we can do is share ourselves I suppose in the most beautiful and open way and trust that our intentions will bring us what we most want in the end, even if it’s not the the shape or size we may have initially pictured.

I suppose it comes down to where you want to spend your energy – on running through memories and what ifs or on knowing with clarity what you want and where you stand. Either way you’re going to need two things here; vulnerability and courage. I’ve recently been battling with these two things myself in a big way in my own personal and romantic life, and while it is so scary to put yourself out there, I’ve found that it is so much scarier to have a brain full of infinite what if stories.

Have courage Annie, either to reach out or to not, either way it can only bring the very best into your life 🙂