Hi Zaica @Zaica

Now there are so many countries and cultures that fall into the “Asian” category. But I hear your message that family means a lot to you.

Sticking to that main point, I would like to raise a few points of my own. Please think about them before responding to this post.

You are a mother, wife, sister, daughter etc. I am assuming your mother in law (MIL) is also a mother, wife, sister and a daughter of someone and vice versa with sister in law (SIL). What does a “family” term mean to you ? Just husband, son and you OR does it include immediate blood relations ?

I know it is hard to live with people who do not give us the love and respect we deserve but at the end of the day, it takes 2 to tango. It is very similar with love. If you give love and understanding to others, there is no way of receiving hatred or misunderstandings. It goes against the nature’s principle of what goes around comes around.

Could you please figure out as to why and where things turned sour for you at your in laws place ? Are you judging yourself and themselves too hard ? Is there any verbal or physical violence involved in this relationship as that will change the whole scenario.

We can have a new start any day if we can change our mindset about ourselves and people.

What is your grievance with in-laws and hubby ? Care to elaborate ?

J