Hi –

Just wanted to throw in my 2 cents. So sorry for your situation. It’s hard when you are in it but know that it won’t always be this way. As my mom always used to say, “this too will pass.”

As I gather there are cultural and economic issues that I may not fully understand from my point of view but I think at the very least you do have to follow what is best for you. We can’t make decisions based on what other people are thinking of us (I speak mainly of your in-law situation). It doesn’t sound like a healthy environment – wanting out of that is nothing to feel bad or selfish about. Don’t compromise what is best for your own well-being. As others have stated here – only you know what that is but make sure it’s about you – nobody else. That may mean what’s best for you and your child and/or including your husband (or not).

We can’t change others, we can only change our perspective. Don’t beat yourself up for thinking your selfish – sometimes being selfish is the best thing for us.

Take time – find peace in the day – answers will come in the silence without the need to think so hard of how to fix.

Take care.