Hi Anyone,

So you had to break up, and you don’t want to get back together, but you keep thinking about her.

You were subconsciously torn about your decision. Somewhere in you she is good; after all you were together, right?

You may miss her – even for drama as Inky asks. If you are like me, you might recall her scent, her hugs, quiet times, fun times out and about. If I were in love I would see her eyes, her smile. It’s in your nature as a person to feel and see these memories of love and connection. We are meant to connect. It’s in our blood to be together. So, as you heard from Inky above, you asked for this space, and you will have these thoughts. What to do with these thoughts? Alpal offers good ideas.

What to do? My take on this having been there: It takes forgiveness, gratitude, time and other connections to lessen thoughts of her.

Say to yourself, “We are both good people who tried but could not stay together. I forgive myself. I forgive her.”

“I am grateful for her being in my life, but things did not work.”

Be patient during this time.

Open your mind and your heart to new experiences, people and places.

Good luck on your exam!

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