Hello The Ruminant, Thank you so much for your reply. You’ve brought another perspective for me on the way I’m handling this issues. My previous relationship before this is an abusive one, i guess that have taken toll on my self confidence. i agree with you that i tend to see myself as the helpless victim. This is one aspect of myself i’m trying to work on.

But can you enlighten me on what is the reason that my actions of asking my friends about my 2 good points is a game of self pity?
I’m curious to see this from another point of view. As for me, i do feel unlovable being replaced so fast, as absurd as it sounds. The purpose of me asking is to prove to myself that, no, i have my good merits too. I was trying desperately to see the good in me.

Thank you again for replying, i really love how you manage to give me a slap back to the reality.