Hi A,

Essentially, everything that Will said. In addition to that, there’s one thing that is bothering me. Let’s say that you both would have cultivated love in your hearts. This irrespective of other people. Just cultivating the ability to feel love within. When that happens, in my experience, it kind of starts to flow freely towards others as well and it is seen and heard. When I look at the situation you’re describing, it feels like the whole terrain is completely dried up on both ends. How can either of you give something that you don’t have? Does he feel loved and cared for? It doesn’t sound like it. So then you have a stand off situation where both need more than they can give. I would lower the weapons for a moment and sit down and talk, not only about your own needs, but capabilities of giving love.

Isn’t there that book, Five Love Languages, that talks about the difference in needs and empty love tanks and so on? I’ve heard a lot of good things about it. Perhaps take a look at it as well?