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Lily,
In addition to bill’s heartfelt wisdom, consider aiming more of your kindness at yourself. You run and run, helping people, meeting demands, chasing your dream, but perhaps don’t take enough time to be gentle and tender with yourself. Often we skip away from the present moment, into past and future, to escape the ugly feeling in our body. We think something is wrong with us, but its not that, its just that our body is really tense from all the running. Said differently, with running body and running mind, no wonder its tough to feel comfortable just being there, as you, resting, enjoying!
Consider spending more time intentionally being gentle with yourself. When we set down all the “didn’t do”s and “what if”s and “what next”s, and just let ourselves unwind, the tightness around the present unwraps, and we wake back up, rejuvinate. Perhaps hop in a tub with candles, go to an art gallery, yoga class, nature walk… a peaceful environment to help remind you of the beauty, inside and out. Save the puzzle for when you feel better, it won’t take long. You give so much kindness already, once you include yourself in the beings you’re kind to, I’m confident you’ll find your stride. 🙂 We get what we give, and you give a lot! But we have to take the time… 🙂
With warmth,
Matt