It takes two to improve your communication.

That said, arguing about it is clearly not helping, so it’s important to break that pattern. Next time you feel things are heading towards this same argument, choose his tactic instead. Just say: OK, this is not working. I’m going to quietly consider my next move. If necessary, go for a walk or go clean the kitchen or call someone else to chat to.

Next time you talk to him about it, try a slightly different tactic. Tell him honestly how you feel, without blaming him. You need to find a solution to this issue together. He may just find it really difficult to speak his mind. He may not think there is a problem at all! There is, but the problem isn’t that he’s not talkative or that you are. The problem is that you feel miserable about it. And there may be all kinds of ways that problem can be resolved.

Don’t let it drive you crazy. Just calmly try different ways to grow the understanding between you, celebrate little steps you manage to take, and if there’s a setback and things don’t work out: oh well, we’re just trying stuff. Like when you cook without a recipe and it doesn’t turn out so well. No big deal, just try something else next time.

I hope things can improve between you.