Hi I just wanted to reply to this as I’m in a very similar situation. My bf is 37 and im 27. I went straight from living with my mother to living with him in his house. I’ve felt for a long time that I just merged into his life. There’s nowhere really in the house I feel comfortable. ..he’s always playing computer games which are very loud so I can never hear the telly or read in peace. He teaches karate and I even started doing that. Even though I enjoy it I feel like it takes up a lot of my time and energy and at the moment I feel like I’ve lost who I am. Because I feel like this I ended up getting really clingy to him because he I felt like he was the only thing I had that was part of me. It was like I needed to see him in order to just feel comfortable. So maybe I know a bit about how you feel? I do agree with previous posts about getting something that is your own. I have a weekly yoga class which I look forward to and is just mine. We also have a spare room downstairs which we’re working on turning into my music/chill out room. So I can go in there and practice piano or do yoga in peace. Then we can come back together when I’ve had some ‘me’ time. It’s hard feeling Co dependent but what is working for me at the moment is making the step to get my own space in the house and getting my own hobbies. is here anywhere in the house that you can go to on your own and do your own thing? Other than that maybe getting a hobby will work and start giving you a sense of identity again. I found the hardest step was to start doing things on my own and then I remembered why I loved being on my own so much. I hope you work things out x