Hey Alma,

All it means is that if one (or more) of our basic needs aren’t being met i.e. it’s out of balance, we will do something, often unconsciously, to bring back some balance.

So if, for example, there were a lot of certainty in a person’s life and not much uncertainty/variety, that person may do something to bring more variety/uncertainty into their life to make things a bit more balanced again.

Unfortunately, what often happens is that the thing or things they do can sometimes cause problem’s elsewhere in their life.

Whether this is true for you or not, I can’t say for sure – you would have to get very honest with yourself as to why you did what you did. Was you looking for more uncertainty/variety? Was you searching for more connection/love? Only YOU can answer that

Having said all of that, I can’t help but believe you’re being very hard on yourself overall. You’re human and as long as you stay that way as – i’m presuming you will 😉 – mistakes will be made.