Feeling not good enough is a sign of self-depreciating thoughts. It would be a good idea to try out little things like makeup or Like what Inky said, you can look great at any size if you know how to dress. For now, this is only temporary relief. What needs to be evaluated is the self-depreciating thoughts.

I know this is obvious but do you find yourself obsessing with imperfections in the mirror? Try to give a limited amount of time in which you spend looking at the mirror, do not avoid it because this may reinforce your self-depreciating thoughts.

It might be worth checking out thought-traps in cognitive behavioural therapy online. This exposes and disempowers negative thought loops that you may have about when you look at yourself. Try to reduce the amount of time gradually that you compare yourself with his exes. Like do you see them on facebook? Keep a journal of your self-depreciating thoughts and try to look at it in different perspectives. Why journal? Well, have you written a letter to your middle school crush and kept a copy? When you looked back years later didn’t the content seem so flawed? When you write something down, it gives you a chance to evaluate it for later versus having no record at all.

I only recommend shaving a few pounds off if and only if you feel it’s beneficial for you. Do not do it with the motivation to impress or too secure your boyfriend. Changing for yourself is entirely different than changing for your boyfriend. Your weight is independent to his behaviour.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by Alana.