Hi Tyler,

It sounds like you’re emotional right now. The brutal truth is that you’re probably not feeling like yourself and you’re probably not thinking like yourself either.

I agree with one of the earlier posts. Actions are all that matter.

You stated earlier that you did something to hurt her. Every action has a reaction. This is the reaction.

We all must learn to accept the reality of the reaction. You made a choice and you did the action. Now you have to accept the reaction. There is nothing more empowering than owning your decisions and owning the consequences.

Of course it is going to hurt. You spent a good chunk of your life with her. It is like taking off your sweater in the cold and now it is raw and open.

But at least now, you get a chance to really think for yourself again. Focus your energy on sorting out the important question. The important question is not whether she will take you back or whether she loves you. The important question is how you feel about her. Then, you can gauge at what length and the severity of sacrifices that you would make in order to win her back. Then, you will be in a position to focus your energy and be able to act with intention.

Peace to you,
M