Hi Regina,

Sorry to hear things have not gone to plan, however, you yourself touch on a very important issue…understanding.
As you say, it doesn’t heal all the hurt, but it is crucially important to understand why others (and ourselves for that matter) make the decisions that we do. Once you understand that we are all different, we all have our own beliefs and we all have our own priorities…and it’s inappropriate to judge other people’s actions by our rules. It may make us feel vindicated or even a victim…but it won’t change the reality. We are all entitled to our own decision making process.
It’s a wise person who can accept other people’s decisions (whether we agree with them or not) and then deal with them as best they can.
It won’t always heal the hurt, but it can certainly help us to move on.