I’m not sure you read that article all the way to the end.

5. Change how you see the inevitability of loss.

The reality is loss is inevitable.

We will all lose relationships, situations, and states of being that we enjoy and love. Even if we practice non-attachment, on some level we will get comfortable with people and circumstances.

You could say that this is what makes life beautiful and meaningful—since nothing lasts forever, each moment presents unique possibilities worth fully appreciating and savoring.

Or you could say this is what makes life tragic—that everything is fleeting, and eventually it all slips away.

How we choose to see things dictates how we’ll experience them. Would you rather see everything as precious or pointless?

You know what the not-tiny Buddha would say to this, right?

It is your craving for this girl, your insistence that you must have her, and only she will do, and things have to be the way they were or you just can’t stand it, that’s making you miserable.

Maybe she’s just distant because she’s distracted, and she’ll come back to you. Maybe she’s just not that into you. There’s not much you can do, there’s no magic formula that you can follow and win the girl. Girls aren’t prizes. You want her, so make that clear, and be available to her. If she wants you too, it’ll work out. If not, it won’t.

Your work should be on letting go of your attachment to the outcome here, and work on loving her and you and everyone, however things turn out. Good luck, man.