Hi Sandy,

With certain others (maybe 1-2%) you won’t, and you don’t wish all the happiness in the world! Instead of fighting it, accept that about yourself. That, ironically, will go a long way toward accepting them. So when those thoughts creep up on you, say to yourself, “LOL, there I am being a hater again! Oh, well!”

With ex’s, especially, you see the new girlfriend and think, “Well, she’ll never share OUR special bond!” or “He just thinks he loves her, I was the It Girl” or even “She has the same hair/look as me. Clearly he’s trying to find a dim replacement.” That’s a normal, human, primal mental reaction. Believe it or not, your friends, family and even Buddhist Masters think the same things.

This is one of those issues that’s a non-issue. Don’t even worry about it! 🙂