Thanks … no, I’d never really end my life, and at this late date, what would be the point? If I could drag myself out of bed, my vice is going to the gym, and it serves the purpose of keeping me in shape. It sounds as though you’ve got a perfect understanding of what happened … you were trying to push her toward more self-sufficiency, and it worked; shows that you have a gift for understanding other people. It sucks that now you’re the one feeling terrible. Just remember what you know about her immaturity … she may appear to be doing great right now, but I hardly think she’s suddenly grown up: You are absolutely good enough … probably too good … and her being cold and showing no consideration is just further proof of how immature she still is. She probably enjoys what she sees as your being jealous, even though you know that’s not what it really is. People always say they want to be friends … it’s just a way of not having to fight, and it leaves the door open for if they ever need you again. They tell you that because they know that’s what you want to hear. I really sympathize with your pain … I truly do, but instead of asking why you’re not good enough, keep telling yourself why SHE’S not good enough. She’s very immature and very unkind; she knows she’s hurting you but doing it anyway, like a child; she’s keeping you on the line with the “friends” thing. You know the old standby “It’s not you; it’s me?” Well, it’s not YOU; it’s HER. I know you feel betrayed; you did something nice for someone, and apparently it worked. In the long run, it’s best for you because you’re out of the relationship … I wish I could tell you how to get through the next months without pain, but only time is going to heal it … for now, since you mentioned it, I’d suggest doing something you love to do which helps you gain some peace … like yoga … maybe reading more … watching more movies … whatever YOU like to do that takes your mind off of things. Is there some volunteer work you could do during your free time? (Actually I just assumed you wouldn’t have much free time!) Anything to get out of your own head that will dull the pain. You really seem like a wonderful person … I hope others are giving you some better input than I am!