Hi Dream,

I was searching for sites that talked about living life to the fullest, and happened to click into this forum, and what you wrote just broke my heart. I have 4 girls who haven’t got to this stage in life yet by far (they’re all under 4 years old) 🙂 but I just saw your hurt and wanted to reach out and say that you are loved.

I think the only real hope and peace can be found in understanding who you are. I mean this in a very ‘big’ sense. Who you are is not connected to the things you can or can’t do, or by finding your talents or gifting. It’s found be realising you were made for a reason, and loved before you were ever born. You have immense value simply because God loves you, and smiled when he thought of making you real. He’s the one that’s excited to have you around. 🙂

Because the simple truth is that trying to find your happiness or approval in someone else is unstable ground. Don’t build your self worth on the sand. People change, you could fall out of love for each other, or just have bad days in the relationship. It’s not stable enough.

Try to really see that you were made for a purpose and by a someone that loves you.

No one can take that away from you.

This is what I would and will tell my little girls.

My answer might also show that I do have a deep faith that is strongly tied to this belief, but I really don’t want to push. Just start by knowing that you are loved, it’s unconditional, and that love is real.