Hi leilah,

First of all, that is wonderful that you left! You are strong!

Secondly, and most important, is this: Your child is Primary. The safety of your child is your One Job. It is all that matters. Not your husband’s guilt, broken heart, or promise to change. It takes so very little to hurt a child. It’s not worth the risk. And it goes against your One Job.

I say rare, supervised visitations with his/her father. Later, when your son or daughter is an adult, go back to him (if you’d want to) or let them have their own relationship with him.

For the next decade and a half, the risk is too great.

Sending Love, Light, and Protection