L,
I would like to point out to you that you did not break up a year ago. From your post it’s only been 3-4 months. 2.5 years of invested emotions don’t right themselves in a few months. You are going to go through a few more bad patches as a new sense of self is forming. That’s fine, growth can be a bit painful. Just don’t jump into another relationship until you new self is solid. Like a crab shedding it’s old exoskeleton, you have to wait for that new one to harden before you can go running on the beach of love again. Use this down time to learn to set bondaries in relationships and to get clear on what you want to give to a partner as well as what you want to receive. It will cut down on future pain and a bunch of wasted time. Good luck!