Dearest GK,
My heart goes out to you. My marriage of 7 years with 2 young kids ended ~4yrs ago, so I can relate to how you’re feeling right now. Grief needs to take place. You used to be a couple, now you’re one. Certain bond broke, so there’s pain. Please be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to cry as much as you need to. Just know that this emotion will lessen and pass with time. And you will come out a stronger woman. The time alone will allow you some reflection, some understanding, some awareness, some realization, and then peace. A peace that is born after a crisis is priceless. You’ll still remember everything, but in a very different light. You’ll somehow feel a sense of gratitude that things happened just the way it did. Sometimes, some door closes because we are meant to walk through another – often a more rewarding one. It will be okay. People enter our life to teach us something about ourselves. Take time to learn what that is that this relationship gave you. Take time to learn who you really are and what really brings you joy. You have the time to try out new hobbies. Or just take walks – as many as you can. It will clear your head. Many insights usually come to me in a walk. My love and hugs to you.
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 