Sultana, just be sure that you judge men with the same kindness you show yourself for not having succeeded on your own. Us guys are a little tiered of having to be “successful” in order to even be considered as a potential partner. Many of us are good, competent, fun, intelligent men, and we get passed over because we don’t have the success needed to spark attraction in modern women. It’s kinda sad because both sides are missing out on the happiness that we deserve. Good luck! Hope you find that happiness and security that you deserve!