Thank you for your response, Inky. I agree with you. Before moving in, I never left anything at his house either. Nothing. I’d come for the weekend and then go back home with everything I came with. I didn’t want to act like a wife if I wasn’t going to be one. Which is why a ring was ordered before I ever moved in. I trusted that I’d get it…he promised me it would happen sometime last summer. I would never ever have given up my townhome if I suspected I’d never get the ring. I don’t know why anyone would choose to keep a ring hidden in the house and be making large payments on it rather than having it on his girlfriend’s finger. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m girlfriend material only and am not good enough to be a wife.

I have no friends or family nearby that I can crash with. And I was “grandfathered” in at a lower rent at my last place so to move back out, it’ll cost me several hundred dollars more a month to get anything close to where I was. I think this is probably a very large reason I haven’t already left. I just can’t afford much now that I gave up my last place.

I have thought about that…like what would he actually do if I DID start packing up to leave. But I think deep down that’s what he’s hoping I’ll do. He’s extremely passive aggressive…he won’t tell me to get out, he just doesn’t seem like he cares if we were to break up. When asked, he sees nothing wrong with what he’s done (or not done) over the last six months. It’s just so extremely frustrating to want something that is out of your control.

Oh, what I wouldn’t give to be able to rewind the clock and make different choices this time. Like they say, hindsight is 20/20.!!!