Hi Vidalevi!
I agree with Maya! Your family are very pessimistic and discouraging, but I can’t fault them because some people are just born and brought up in a different environment and culture that makes them into who they are and what they think now.
So don’t listen to everything that they tells you, even though they brought you into this world and took care of you till now.
Love them as you would to anyone nice to you.
But look forward to your future with positive thinkings, and be brave~
I totally understand if you are shy, because I am actually very shy in opening up my feelings too. :/

But ” They are like- ‘you are too old to dream about things like that. You are supposed to get practical. You are old and you will not get what you area of. You have to settle down with whomever comes even if you like or not.”
Now my family emotionally blackmails me and tells me that I’m a disgrace that I’m still not married and they cannot move in the society with their head held high. Everyone are making fun of them because of me. My friends tell me that now you cannot have any list of requirements for your SO. ”

these are not healthy for your mind. You shouldn’t let these affect you.
Anyone is capable and totally deserve to dream. Sometimes, maybe they are just not good with words maybe? They might say hurtful things, but actually still love you as a family. It is like that sometimes with my family too. But from their actions, I know they love me. You certainly have the right to deserve what you want, because everyone has every right to dream of what they want. Looks isn’t everything. If you have a good heart, I believe you will touch someone nice someday too. 🙂

And if you have a family in the future, make sure to never put down any one of them with discouraging words like your family now, because you know how it will hurt and affect them!

Think positive!

• This reply was modified 9 years, 12 months ago by Yudine.